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Always be willing to let it go

When I did my yoga teacher training back in 2011 one of my teachers told us stories about coming to the West from India and being introduced to root beer. He loved root beer! It was so delicious and he couldn’t get enough of it! He talked about becoming quite attached to his trips from the ashram where he could go to get root beer. He spoke of it with such affection and sweetness, we all laughed. But the thing is, he found himself becoming quite attached to root beer. He had to be willing to let it go. He also spoke about being given a gift – an iPod nano – that he loved. When someone asked if they could listen he initially wouldn’t loan it. He was attached to having that iPod. It was his. Once again, a lesson in letting go. Eventually he gave it away.

This past week was a lesson for me in letting it go. I had to let go of something I had impulsively bought. After getting this item, I realized the mistake almost immediately, and although I really wanted to keep it, I knew that the money I spent (it was an awful lot) was needed for bills. And so, with much sadness, I let it go. But along with the sadness, was a sense of relief. I feel a lot better now.

That’s something we don’t do a lot of in the West. We accumulate many things, we gather our stuff around us sometimes as status symbols, often as comforts. And then we become owned by our things as opposed to owning our things. We become attached to ownership as much as the things themselves!

Aparigraha is one 5 Yamas of the 8 limbs of yoga as written by Pantanjali. It is interpreted as non-attachment, non-greed or non-possessiveness. It extends further than our things, however. It extends even to our existence. The attachment to our bodies, to our thoughts, to our beliefs. When we attach to these concepts it sets up an ‘us vs them’ sort of mentality. We believe x and they believe y and one if us must be right. When we allow ourselves to detach and take a state of curiosity instead, we are able to be open to others’ ideas and examine them with discernment rather than from a place that is immovable. We may decide it’s not for us, but not with anger or resentment. There’s so much of that in our world these days.

Always be willing to let it go. Check yourself for attachments and determine the nature of the attachment and the reason for it. You may surprise yourself with insight into why you are attached.

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Time to Smash your Goals!

I have a great tool for you to use to get clarity on your goals and set you up for success!

Inside this workbook is are exercises to help you clarify what you really want in life, years worth planning, step development, motivation and supports including gem stones and essential oils to use to help you make 2019 the best year yet!

Included are monthly inspirations, gem stones and essential oils to support your dreams and turn them into reality. Even though I wrote the book, I’m starting the steps again now!

At only $4.99 CDN, this is well worth the cost to possibly make this your best year yet. Get in on Amazon! 

 

As we move into a new year

Here we are at the end of another year. I’ve been working hard this year building my business, my brand if you will, and learning so much along the way. I’ve met incredible people, learned so much about myself and what I want from life and developed a new vision for my future.

Sometimes it’s been overwhelming. Sometimes it’s been scary as hell. It will be both in the year to come as well. However, it’s also been liberating, exciting and fulfilling. The overwhelm and fear comes from money. Ah money. It seems to make the world go round doesn’t it? And yet, I’ve been reminded that there is always enough. Even in my lowest points financially, emotionally and mentally, I’ve always survived. And I will survive – and thrive – now too. I need to earn a living like everyone else, but I will relax around it more. That’s one of my intentions as we leave 2018. I know a lot of people who set an intention and then wait for things to happen. I’m not that girl! I start pushing things to happen RIGHT NOW. And of course, building a brand (that word doesn’t seem enough for what I intend) takes time. It’s takes trust both from me and in me from those who decide to work with me. It takes confidence that I will find the answers if I don’t have them right now. It takes courage to leave the world of false security and take the giant leap to follow my dharma – that which I know to be my true calling. It takes surrender too. Surrendering to the deeper knowing that everything will happen just as it should. Its the old adage “you can’t push the river”. I will flow. And what is mine will come to me.

I find myself coming back to my spirituality in some ways. I lost so much faith after my mom passed away. It’s been 2 years of slowly finding my way back. My kidney transplant in March was part of the catalyst for coming back. I had a vision one night while I was in the hospital of my Mom and my Aunt visiting me. They were radiant and beautiful and comforting. And they seemed real. I’ve been able to feel that on occasion since that night. Feel them with me. My meditation practice that had wained is also back. I may have gone back to it in a more scientific way (the research shows…) but I feel more than just a calm. It’s more esoteric than that. It’s inexplicable.

There are some very difficult times ahead this year. I have eyes wide open about that as I have a family member who is quite ill. Unlike when my mom passed, this time I am more intentional about my own care. I had a break down of almost everything – mentally, physically and emotionally after Mom died. I need to go on. I need to honour both myself and my family members – all of them – by being the best version of myself. And while being broken had its reasons and its benefits, I can’t be what I need to be if I completely break again. I know that now.

And so, as I move into 2019, I do so with the intention to bring healing and life-force energy into the world. What has broken me through the course of my life is my biggest asset now. I have survived and thrived and I will help others do the same.

Take charge of your health

healthy eating, diet and  detox . dumbbells, kiwi  waterI’ve put together a short course on Udemy called Take Charge of your Health! Tune in to learn tips on the following:

  • What sugar is doing to your body
  • Why some fats are absolutely vital
  • Why low fat and fat free need to get out of your kitchen
  • What happens when unhealthy fat and sugar get together
  • A 4 day experiment to determine what protein sources are best for you
  • How to use food prep as a tool
  • How to create a magic plate
  • Start to uncover the reasons you keep falling back on old habits

What you’ll learn

  • By the end of this course you will know how to transform your health holistically.
  • Know how to move your health to a new level.
  • Learn an experiment to discover which foods are right for your body.
  • You will know why you are trapped on the sugar roller coaster and how to get off.
  • Tools to help you achieve the health you want.

Slow down and pay attention

What is your body trying to tell you? Try this short restorative yoga practice with meditation to help you determine just that.

If you didn’t catch yesterday’s post about the solstice, see it here for a bit of context about slowing down this time of yea.

 

Time to exhale

The winter solstice is here. It’s known to be the height of the inhale, meaning that it’s now the start of a long exhalation energetically. We are often engaged in yang activities during this time, festive parties, celebrating often to excess, and yet this is the time of lowest energy. It’s the time of the deepest darkness, and when we need more rest.

Use your winter energy wisely. Walking, tai chi, meditation and yoga practices of a more restorative nature are important ways to wind down. Balance, as always is the name of the game. We don’t need to let go of our yang practice, it’s simply a time to be especially careful about having the yin in your life too.

Eating warmer, perhaps spicier foods is a way to strengthen your yang so that you do keep up your energy for those activities. And think about getting vegetables that are cooked and warmer as opposed to raw in the winter. Finding time for slowing down and connecting with your yin energy will help you to stay in sync. If you find yourself in situations where a lot of stress and chaos comes up, be sure to take quiet time in equal measure.

This year, we have the full moon as well during the darkest night of the year. The full moon brings about heightened emotions, but is also the time for manifestation. Consider what you want to manifest and hold a clear vision of that during the full moon, which will be visible both tonight and tomorrow night.

Nurture yourself during this time, and feel your body exhale all of the busy, stressful energy from the full inhale we are now letting go of.

Have you visited my product page lately?

lotus1I have a lot of new products available right now! From soaps (which are the funnest thing in the world to make!) to aromatherapy jewelry, I have loads of product going on.

I’ve been enjoying making these items and have become a bit of a scientist. My kitchen has become a lab. There are test tubes and beakers going on, always a pot of boiling water to sterilizing the packaging. All I’m missing is the lab goggles and white coat! It’s been a bit addictive for me, which means I’m making way too much. It’s something I find fun and interesting and worthy. All natural products that are ethically sourced and fair trade are the name of my game. I want to be able to bring only the purest ingredients that are also safe. That’s a bit of a balancing act I’m finding. Safety has to take centre stage. If you’ve been following me you know that I am on anti-rejection drugs that lower my immunity so coming from that perspective, I want nothing that could breed bacteria folks. I’ve found some natural preservatives as a result. They are not going to keep as long as synthetic preservatives (like several years), so everything comes with an expiry date, somewhere between 6 months and 2 years depending on the product. Anything that goes in the shower or tub, so is exposed to water needs a shorter shelf life.

Visit my page – you might find a few nice gifts or products for yourself!

I haven’t talked to my Mom in 2 years

It’s 2 years today that my mom passed away. It seems crazy to me and often what comes to mind is that I haven’t talked to he in so long. Sometimes that’s a really lonely feeling because she’s the only person I would talk to about certain things. Other times I know how surrounded I am by my very loving family. In some ways it seems like it happened so long ago and in others it’s a fresh wound waiting to split open all over again. It actually happened this past weekend during a meditation at an event. I went into that place of grief, but then shoved it down because it feels like it might never stop. It wasn’t the time. And yet, I know that it happens when it happens and I could have just let myself go and experience it fully and allowed myself to come through the other side. But, I didn’t.

After I lost my Mom a lot changed in my life. Some really great things that I wanted to share with her and some not so great things that I wonder if she knows about. I got a kidney transplant this year from one of those loving family members, my cousin. That was pretty amazing and scary and emotional and full of love and well, just everything balled up in one experience. I changed careers and feel so much more passionate about what I’m doing now. It’s kind of amazing. The not so good thing that happened I haven’t spoken about publicly at all; I also lost my father. Not to a death, he’s alive and well and lives across the street from me actually. I reached out to him a lot after mom died. For the first year I told him over and over that I loved him and that he as still my father and I didn’t;t want to lose him. I guess the message didn’t get through, because the truth is, he never once checked in one me when I was going through a kidney transplant. He didn’t visit me when I spent 10 days in the hospital, he didn’t email or call or message me over facebook. He didn’t show care at all. And that’s when I stopped contacting him, and I knew what that meant- that I wouldn’t hear from him ever again. And that’s exactly what happened. I’ve told myself that he was grieving mom too much, but the truth is he moved on almost immediately and didn’t recognize that he had cut off an entire side of his family including grandchildren who grew up with him, loved him and never expected that he wouldn’t be in their lives anymore. I’ve tried to explain this to myself and to my daughter, but I gave up. I guess the man who came into my life when I was 15 wasn’t ever really my father after all. Blood does run deeper sometimes.

So I’ve lost my parents and feel a bit like an orphan from time to time. And then I remind myself that I’m actually a 50 ear old woman who has had a very interesting and courageous life and who knows how to handle shit. That’s why I became a life and health coach – I know how to handle shit! All the painful experiences of my past culminated to make me the person I am today, and the truth is I am a powerful, compassionate and valuable woman who happens to be a lot like her mom – the one I not only loved so very much, but also admired the hell out of! And if I’m even half of what she was I’m pretty damn good.

Missing you still Mama.

Rid yourself of upper back tension

If you’re like many people, sitting at a desk or driving a lot means upper back tension! Try this for getting a little more relaxed in those big back muscles.

Happy Feet Challenge!

HAPPY FEET CHALLENGE

Your feet work SO HARD for you ALL DAY LONG. This week I’m challenging you to show them some love by giving them a little massage!

All you need is a tennis or lacrosse ball and a few minutes – you can do this when you’re winding down at night in front of the computer at TV or sitting at your desk (no one has to know!).

Simply roll each foot (no shoes!) on the ball for a few minutes. Go as fast or as slow as you want, applying as much or as little pressure as feels good. 👣👣

As you go, you’ll notice some spots feel tighter than others. Spend a little extra time on each tender/tight spot and let the muscles relax a bit.

The goal isn’t to cause yourself any pain. You should feel like you’re releasing some tension in your feet as you go! It should actually feel really good!

Sometimes our feet can get so tight we don’t even notice they could use a little TLC.

 You’ll be amazed at the difference this can make in how doing this will actually release tightness up through your legs and hips and impact the rest of your body!  It’s also a great preventive exercise for plantar fasciitis.

Your challenge is to get a ball and roll your feet every day for 3-5 minutes each!

Are you in? I certainly am!  Let me know in the comments below…

Why do you not want to change?

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Sometimes when we say we want to change something about our lives, there are hidden reasons for staying exactly the same. There’s a certain comfort in it for sure. Even when we feel desperately about wanting change, underneath we may worry about what we’ll lose out on because we change some aspect of ourselves.

The reasons are endless from the fear of people judging you to losing someone who won’t ‘get’ the new you. Maybe it will change your peer group to one that has more money even. Whatever the case, we often need to dig pretty deep to figure it out.

I once decided that I would never engage in office gossip again. And for a short time I did, but what ended up happening is I felt like I couldn’t even talk to my office pals. every time I did, there were complaints about this one or that. I felt drawn in again because I wanted to fit in. Fitting in is a shockingly  common reason for not changing. Another big one is guilt; we can commiserate with others who are in the same boat, but when our lives change for the better, we feel as if we don’t deserve it for some reason because others didn’t achieve it.

How do you get through it? Well, first you need to identify your reason for not taking the leap. Once identified, get realistic. Do you really think that others would disown you if you stopped gossiping for example? If they did, are they worth your time?

Is guilt a valid response to getting what you want? Again, if others are feeling jealous of you, that’s on them. It’s time or them to step up and put the work in the same way you do.

Working with someone like a coach or a counsellor (depending on where your desire to change is stemming from) can help you phenomonally to look a things a bit differently, to reframe the situation and change your perception of the problem. Find someone you feel good with – take them for a test drive. Coaches often offer a free first session which gives you a great chance to see what working with them will be like. Take advantage of that to find the right fit. It’s very important that the person you end up working with makes you feel safe and comfortable for the deep work that can often be involved.